DEAR MISS MANNERS: I’m a man who is 6-foot-6 and 62 years old.
My entire life, I have found myself bent in half when greeting women for whom a welcome hug is appropriate. My aunties, cousins, sisters and any number of others might throw their arms up, initiating a hug.
When women (of any age) hug me, they always want to put their arms above my own — their arms are basically around my neck during the hug. Picture me bent in half hugging my 4′11″ mother-in-law.
I’m wondering, is this just hugging etiquette? Would I be in violation if I just kept my arms above theirs, allowing myself less of a stoop? Is it a rule or custom?
GENTLE READER: It is not a rule, and Miss Manners gives you leave to bend only as far as is consistent with your principles and your back.
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