DEAR ABBY: My husband and I have been married for 16 years, together for 22. He’s the love of my life, my sunshine and roses. He’s a great husband and an even better father. You are probably wondering why on earth I’m writing to you. Well, his teeth are disgusting. They are stained, chipped and just gross. He is overcoming some self-esteem issues regarding his weight. He has lost a good bit, and I’m super proud of him, but how do I say, “Great job! But there’s still something wrong with you”?
For the record, his weight means nothing to me. I never pushed him to be “slim” or “buff,” but rather to be healthy and have enough stamina to keep up with our kids and get off the CPAP machine. Money and the dental expenses aren’t an issue, but he would rather spend extra money doing fun things as a family, making memories and having adventures, which is great. I just wish he could have a nice smile while doing it. Advice? — NOT QUITE PERFECT IN OHIO
DEAR NOT QUITE: Because your husband’s teeth are a turn-off, you are going to have to address the problem. Wait until he is at or near his goal weight, then tell him that although you adore him, you would find him more kissable if he would deal with his dental issue. Tell him that putting it off may make the problem more difficult to fix. Your family dentist may be able to help or refer him to a good cosmetic dentist.
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