CLEVELAND, Oh – My husband and I have been house hunting. I am very mindful of the political signs in the areas that we are considering. I have refused to even look at or consider houses in neighborhoods or where the neighbors clearly support certain candidates. Some even have flags displayed that I personally find offensive.
He thinks that I am being ridiculous in my thinking — that my thought process is keeping us from some very nice homes in our price range and good deals on homes.
I understand that although these homes may be in our price range and check off certain boxes, I wouldn’t feel comfortable in these neighborhoods. I can’t see myself being social with those that live around me. I don’t even think that I would feel safe especially given my nationality.
He thinks I am overreacting and reminds me that just because the neighbors don’t have political signs outside of their homes doesn’t mean that they aren’t racist or have opposing viewpoints than we do.
While I understand this, I told him that at least if it isn’t visible I would feel better about it.
Reader question: Am I overreacting, or should I stand by my gut feeling to stay away from these neighborhoods?
Answer: Clearly, you and your husband aren’t on the same page about this. But you will both be living there. Buying a home is a huge commitment.
Nobody wants to feel uncomfortable in their own home or neighborhood. If you are ready to buy, then I would think that you would like to stay put for a while.
This is also a very important election, and many people have felt the need to openly display their support for the candidate they believe in. Ask yourself this…if you were looking at these same properties at a different time of the year when there were no political signs, would you still be interested?
Your husband is right in pointing out that not everyone will openly show their support for candidates, so you may not know where your neighbors may or may not stand in their political beliefs. This election has divided many people already. Just because you may not have the same views as your neighbor doesn’t mean that you can’t be civil or get along.
Visit these neighborhoods during the day, on a weekend when people may be out. Stop and ask for directions or a question about the community. See if they are friendly before moving forward.
At the end of the day, you must follow your gut. Homes aren’t cheap, and you should be happy with your purchase and most importantly feel safe.
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Yadi Rodriguez, columnist for Cleveland.com and The Plain Dealer