Dear Eric: My partner and I plan to host our wedding in our home state (across the country from where we live now) since most of our family is there and it makes more logistical sense.
Rather than invite our friends in our new state, we thought it’d be fun to have a separate party for them here, which will also keep costs for the real wedding down. We also don’t want to put a travel burden on people.
Would it be tacky to have photos from the “real” wedding at the second party? I don’t want people to feel left out but it seems like the best solution to “include” everyone.
– Double I Do’s
Dear Double: Provided you don’t label the photos “Pics from Our Real Wedding”, your idea is a lovely gesture.
Friends of mine had three separate celebrations for their wedding, each with friends and relatives in different states. They were unique gatherings that served as a testament to the far reach of my friends’ connections. We were excited to see what they got up to in the other locales. You might even want to include information about both weddings on your wedding website, with links for folks to see photos from both events. This way everyone understands the intention and feels included in one big, multi-state, multi-part celebration.
Congrats and have twice the fun.
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