Dear Annie: I love my cats, but my boyfriend is extremely allergic

Dear Annie: I’m in a wonderful relationship with a man I adore. We’ve been together for over a year, and he’s brought so much joy into my life. The only challenge is that he’s severely allergic to cats — and I have two that I’ve had for years. My cats are like family to me, and I can’t imagine life without them, but his allergy is serious enough that even spending time at my house is difficult for him.

We’ve talked about the future, and while I want to build a life with him, I’m torn about how to manage this. Rehoming my cats feels unthinkable, but I don’t want his health or our relationship to suffer. Is there a way to navigate this situation without losing either my boyfriend or my furry companions? — Torn Between Love and Fur

Dear Love and Fur: This is a tricky predicament you’re in, but it’s not an impossible one. The first step could be to find an allergist. Modern treatments like allergy shots, antihistamines or nasal sprays might help reduce his symptoms over time, making visits to your home more manageable. Make sure you have high-quality air purifiers and keep your home meticulously clean, as this can significantly lower kitty dander in the air.

If your relationship progresses to the point of living together, creating cat-free zones, particularly in the bedroom, can help protect his health.

Ultimately, this is about compromise and open communication. Your love for your cats is valid, but so is his need for a healthy environment. If he’s committed to finding a way forward, you’ll both find a balance that lets you build a future without sacrificing either of your loves.