To be honest, this is not an easy story to share, but I’m sure many out there have or are facing similar experiences.
I thought my relationship with my partner was based on sincere and honest love.
However, over time, this relationship seems to revolve around only one thing, namely ringgit money.
At first, I remember that he was really sweet. Every time he asked for money, I gave it to him. He said, there are outstanding bills, old debts, he wants to help his family – all those reasons seem correct and I just believe them.
Long story short, over time I noticed that almost every time we chat, there must be a ‘money’ issue. All kinds of reasons, but I have to bear it.
Strangely, when I started trying to talk about this, he kept snapping. He said if it’s true dear, I should help him.
He’s good at playing with my feelings, making me feel like I’m not doing enough to make him happy. Little by little, I sacrificed more and more, not only money but also self-respect.
Now, I am at a crossroads. I am increasingly suspicious of the sincerity of his love and feel as if I have been deceived.
The amount of money I’ve given has been countless, and my respect for him is fading. I wonder, is this relationship about love or just financial gain?
So, I tell this story to ask the opinion of all readers. Has anyone ever felt this way? How do you know when we should stop? Is it true that he can change, or I have to decide?
Thank you if anyone is willing to share their views.
Khai MN
ADVICE DANG MP
Thank you Khai MN for sharing your story. The situation you are facing is indeed challenging and sad.
It feels like a relationship that is only to get financial help will certainly cause your friend’s sincerity and honesty to be doubted.
First of all, Dang advises that it is important to acknowledge your feelings.
If every conversation ends with financial issues, it may be a sign that this relationship is unbalanced.
Be honest with him that you doubt this relationship.
Get advice or opinions from family and friends you can trust. Then talk to your friend who you want to change from. Give time if necessary.
If there is no positive change from him, then it is clear that you are not respected, valued and only used by him.
Respect and trust are the foundations of true love; if that is lost, then the relationship you maintain is meaningless and will only harm you.
Thinking about what you want in a relationship is an important step. Are you willing to keep giving without feeling appreciated? You deserve to feel respected and loved unconditionally.