DEAR ABBY: My first real adult love was a woman named “Sasha.” We had a whirlwind romance in the mid-’80s. At the time, I thought she was The One. The romance ended when she told me she was married. The last time I saw her was with her husband at a nightclub in the ‘80s.
I moved on and married someone else in 1990. I do, however, think about Sasha sometimes. I don’t remember her married last name, so I can’t locate her. My wife thinks it’s insane that I would want to talk with Sasha. I want to ask her if our relationship was real and if she loved me. When traveling in the area where I met Sasha, I would look at people to see if I might run into her. Do you think I’m crazy to want to have just one conversation with Sasha? — BITTERSWEET IN CALIFORNIA
DEAR BITTERSWEET: It has been 40 years since your whirlwind romance with Sasha. What was a whirlwind romance for you may have been a fling for her. She should have told you from the beginning that she was married, but she didn’t, which leads me to think she didn’t love you. People who love each other try to protect each other. Which leads me to your question. No, I don’t think you are insane, but I do think it’s time you stopped trying to revisit the past.
Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, California 90069. Copyright 2024, Andrews, McMeel Syndication.
