Dear Abby: I filed for divorce nine months ago. The judge signed my papers six weeks ago. I was with my alcoholic ex for 17 years, married for 12. I knew my marriage was over a year ago, so I was preparing myself.
Four months ago, I met “Aaron,” a man I have grown to really like. He feels the same, but my sisters feel I shouldn’t be thinking about a relationship. My kids are grown and out of the house. They have met Aaron and say, “Whatever makes you happy,” but I’m afraid if my sisters find out I’m seeing someone, they are going to be negative. I really want them to know how happy I am, but I’m not sure if I should say anything just yet. Please help.
— Free, Not Free, In Iowa
Dear Free, Not Free: You have only recently emerged from a long and difficult marriage, which has to have been stressful and depressing. Right now you are on an emotional high. Your sisters are giving you good advice. Slow down!
If what you and Aaron have together is as good as you think, keep seeing him and get to know each other better. Stop hiding him from your sisters and introduce him. But when you do, tell them you are not jumping from the frying pan into the fire and plan to spend time getting to know him before making any permanent decisions. You have earned that right.
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