Dear Abby: When I married in 1974, my mother had one of my wedding photos of me in my wedding dress and holding my bouquet. It was lovely, and she had it made up into a large 36-inch-by-26-inch portrait with a beautiful frame. It hung in my old bedroom until she passed away. I have had it in a closet in my house ever since.
I’ve asked my daughter and son if they would like to have it, and they don’t. I’m wondering if I should throw it away or leave it up to them when I’m gone. Because we have always had a loving relationship, I don’t want either of them to feel bad about disposing of it.
— Picturing the Future
Dear Picturing: You must be sentimental about that portrait, or you wouldn’t have kept it all these years. Because of that, I don’t think you should toss it. After you are gone, your daughter or son may change their mind about having it. Let them decide when the time comes.
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