DEAR MISS MANNERS: My sister-in-law has been invited to several family functions. She attends, but then always leaves without saying goodbye. We look up, and she is gone without a word to anyone. I think this is rude behavior. There have been some family disagreements in the past, but nothing too major. I’m starting to think she doesn’t like us and comes out of obligation. What is your take?
GENTLE READER: Your sister-in-law’s take is probably more relevant than that of Miss Manners. She therefore suggests you say, “We were so happy to see you at Cousin Ethan’s retirement party, but you left before we got a chance to say goodbye. Is it something we said?” At which point, she will tell you, or not. But at least she will have been put on notice … that you noticed.
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